This Is Why They Call It “A Man’s World” Out There

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In this sea of men, I do not get why or how some girls can be so acutely desperate and persevere to be with just one guy. Please note that this entry is not concerning those in good relationships/terms.

A friend of mine has been having an affair with a married guy for two years now. At first she said it was lust, then eight months later -in one of her emails to me- she proclaimed it was love. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a “live and let live” kind of person. The universe knows I’ve made mistakes, but as a friend who realized how complicated that situation could turn out to be, I instantly told her logical reasons aplenty why she should just get out of it before the damages become irrevocable. She did not listen. During these recent months, complications occurred. That boyfriend of hers went possessive-obsessive, beat her up, and cheated on her with someone else. It was so frickin’ ironic it almost made me laugh. And lo and behold.. she still wants to be with him! I tried to kick some sense into her mind, she heedlessly gave me any response. I went berserk. Not at him, but at her, for being such an idiot. Finally, I decided to let her be, ’cause friends can only do so much. If she wanted to live a sad and miserable life, who am I to tell her otherwise?

Another friend of mine is sickeningly in love -or so she said- with this guy. During their I-don’t-know-how-many years relationship, he made mistakes, she made mistakes, and somehow they broke up. Now he’s about to move to another country, and she is desperately seeking for a second chance to get back together with him, which to me seems pointless. He’s going away for crying out loud! Not to mention that the guy already has a new girlfriend now. All of my friends have been telling her endless reasons to just move on. I told her to get over it. Well, my exact words were: sometimes bitch needs some slap on the face, ’cause you know what: LIFE SUCKS, MEN SUCK EVEN MORE, AND LOVE IS THE WORST! so what do you do? YOU GET OVER IT! That was pretty harsh, I know. But still, there’s truth in it. She was being all stubborn-y and refused to listen. Then I decided to take a nicer approach in stating my opinion, only to find no change whatsoever. She said to everyone she only wanted to hear what she wanted to hear. How the heck should we know what she wants to hear? I reckon she wants to hear things that can give her conformation to pursue the guy even further. Well, she ain’t getting it from me.

Then there’s this girl I knew who slept with this guy (well, she also slept with all his friends at that time). It happened like 2 years ago or so. There was nothing between them after that (at least not that I know of). Recently, knowing that the guy already has a girlfriend, she said -to a friend of mine who told the guy who told me- that she is still in love with this dude (yes, the one she slept with two frickin’ years ago!). They were not even in a relationship! Is she mental or something?

What is wrong here? Am I the only one who is still geistig gesund here, or on the contrary, am I the one who is daft for refusing to adhere to men? I know love is one tricky business, it obfuscates the minds of those who are trapped in it. But, come oooon! I have been struck by love (or at least something similar to it) and getting my heart broken for far too many times in my life. Yes, we all have the right to be miserable after a break up. Yes, we are allowed to cry and be mad and bitter and all that jazz. But I would never, ever, allow myself to frickin’ beg for someone’s love, or abide an inutile relationship, or stoop to that level of idiocy just because of a bloke, especially if he is far from worthy. I’m too arrogant that way, I suppose.

I don’t get it. Where’s that strength, a sovereign virtue women supposed to have? Where’s that pride to hold your head up high? Sigh. I know I wrote “I don’t get it” too many times in this entry, but I don’t think I want to get it. I don’t want to know the Why. I’m sure those girls (and many alike) posses many reasons why they do what they do. And maybe they don’t understand me just as much as I don’t understand them.

Maybe what they call being in love, I call being pathetic. To each her own, I guess.

“Hout, neighbour,” said Mrs. Howden, “we suld live and let live—we hae been young oursells, and we are no aye to judge the warst when lads and lasses forgather” – Sir Walter Scott. (1818). The Heart of Mid-Lothian, ch. 23.

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